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  • Dec 24, 2025

Untold and Retold: Becky Clark on movement, nervous system regulation and reclaiming safety

  • Debs Penrice

Untold and Retold: Unblocking the hidden stories that shape our lives is our collaboration book exploring the belief that our past challenges, the ones we’ve carried quietly, show strength and inspire others when finally spoken aloud. Co-author Becky Clark’s contribution reflects this so well because her chapter takes readers on a visceral journey through avoidance, survival and escape. She turned around her own situation, by stepping into a powerful reclamation of safety within her own body. What nearly broke her has become her life’s work: helping others regulate their nervous systems, reconnect with their bodies, and discover a life of more ease, greater capacity and joy.

Becky’s mentoring and training work is rooted in somatic awareness and practical tools for nervous system regulation. She believes that when we learn to pace ourselves and recognise hints from our body to meet our nervous systems where they are, we unlock the possibility of meaningful, lasting change.

From survival to somatic insight

When Becky decided to take part in the Stories That Heal collaboration, it was to let others know that transformation is possible at any point in life. She wanted readers to recognise something she learned through her own experience: starting from where you are doesn’t mean that your patterns have to define you forever.

The central idea of her chapter is that dark times — especially those rooted in early life — are common, and the ways we find to cope (perhaps through escape, numbing, or distraction) are human responses to overwhelm, not reflections of your identity. Too often, people believe that these coping mechanisms are proof that something is wrong with them. Becky’s story reframes them instead as responses shaped by past events, and material from which resilience, strength and understanding emerge.

Her narrative is centred around a series of events where being “on the run” became a way of life — physically, emotionally and mentally. Her experiences became the catalyst for a radically embodied approach to healing which sits at the heart of her professional work. 

Becky teaches people how to regulate their nervous system and is the creator of the Flip™ formula — a method that helps individuals build self-trust and intuitive connection with their body. Her coaching helps people build a relationship with their physical sensations and nervous system signals, rather than suppressing or escaping them.

Bringing in nervous system regulation

Becky works with clients who often feel burnt out, stuck in unhelpful patterns, overwhelmed by stress, or disconnected from a sense of ease and flow in their lives. Many of them are business owners or high-achieving individuals who have learned to cope through doing, achieving, or pushing harder — only to find that those old strategies no longer serve them.

“I wanted to share … that it doesn’t define you,” Becky says. This sentiment is reflected in her coaching philosophy: your nervous system stores experiences that once helped you survive, but it doesn’t have to keep running them on a loop for the rest of your life.

Her approach is practical and rooted in somatic science — the understanding that the body remembers long before the mind does. The tools she uses are designed to bring safety and regulation into the nervous system, helping clients become anchored in their bodies instead of constantly reacting to internal or external stress.

Some of the core practices in her work include:

  • Somatic tools: grounding exercises that help people sense their bodies with curiosity rather than judgement

  • 60-second resets: quick, accessible ways to down-regulate overwhelm

  • Breathing and movement practices: to release tension and settle the nervous system

  • Stimulation hacks: ways to work with sensory input for regulation

  • TRE (Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises): for involuntary shaking that helps the body discharge stored stress

These practices aren’t about “woo woo” — a misconception Becky often encounters — but about science-aligned ways to bring the body into a state of safety and calm.

Storytelling as part of strength and healing

Stories have always been a way for humans to make sense of difficult experiences. For Becky, storytelling became part of her healing when clients, friends and peers began encouraging her to put her experiences into words.

“There were places I had been, things I had seen and experienced that were unique, and could be helpful to saving others as well,” she reflects. It wasn’t just about sharing dramatic moments — it was about uncovering the hidden messages in her journey and offering them back to others who might be searching for permission to heal.

Writing her chapter brought unexpected emotional release and a sense of closure. It helped her reconnect with parts of her story she hadn’t fully processed and gave her a deeper empathy for her clients’ struggles. It also reminded her that healing slows us down in all the best ways — allowing compassion to grow where there was once survival instinct.

In her mentoring and training practice, Becky now works with more empathy and gentleness, recognising that every nervous system has a pace of its own — and meeting people where they are is the first step toward meaningful change.

For anyone beginning their own healing journey or considering writing their story, Becky offers practical advice: map out the events of your life and see what themes emerge. Often, what seems like a chaotic series of moments reveals deep meaning and connection once seen through the lens of reflection.

Life beyond healing work — curiosity, connection and dance

Outside her professional identity, Becky is a lifelong learner — a self-described “geek at heart.” She loves reading, writing courses, and expanding her own understanding so she can bring depth to her coaching. She’s also a devoted mother who loves dancing with her little girl, grounding her in joy and connection.

Becky draws inspiration from leaders who have faced and transformed significant life challenges — people who confront discomfort every day to make a positive impact. Her own advice to her younger self echoes this spirit: be kind to yourself — no one cares as much as you think they do. Everyone else is wrapped up in their own life.

This simple insight — that we are not under constant scrutiny — is profoundly freeing and echoes the nervous system work she teaches: when we stop fighting against ourselves, we can begin to let our bodies and minds regulate, recover and flourish.

Connect with Becky Clark

Becky invites readers who resonate with her message to connect with her online:

Her work continues to empower people to move beyond overwhelm, reclaim safety in their bodies, and live with more ease, confidence and self-trust. Join our waitlist to be first to hear when the book is published